I feel your pain Bruce, growing up is hard enough without the burden of being different. My son has apergers, he was lucky as we got him into a special needs school so he didn't suffer as those kids don't judge.
I can only say that it gets a bit easier (but not simple) as they get older. Paolo is 26 now, he sings in a choir , he goes to college one day a week to learn languages and generally keeps busy. He's not interested in a mobile phone (phew) but there's still a lot of anxiety at times.